Many women reach a point in their lives when they take on caring responsibilities for both their children and their parents. Looking after multiple people on top of running a home, working, and managing other commitments can be tough. In this guide, we’ll share some top tips to help you navigate caring roles as a busy mom with aging parents. 

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Engage in open discussion early

One of the best ways to negotiate the challenges of assuming caring responsibilities for elderly relatives is to engage in open discussion before you get to the stage when your loved ones need more help. Having conversations about the future when your parents are in their 50s, 60s, and 70s can help you get a clear idea of their preferences and wishes and prepare for the years ahead. It’s not always an easy subject to approach, but it’s crucial to talk about the future and what will happen if your parents need support, help, or medical care. 

Explore different options

There are many options to consider when it comes to caring for older relatives. Multigenerational living has become more commonplace in recent years and there are also some fantastic accommodation options, such as retirement communities and care homes for those with more complex needs. It’s wise to research the best senior living facilities in your area and think about what will suit your parents and other members of your family best. In many cases, it’s possible to support independent living at home with extra pairs of hands or adjustments to living spaces. You may find that your mom or dad needs extra help with getting from A to B, doing grocery shopping, or making meals, for example, or that they would benefit from a stairlift or a walk-in shower. 

Share the load

It’s natural to want to look after your parents. For most of us, it’s a means of paying them back for all the love they’ve given us as their children and helping them to enjoy every minute of their senior years. There’s no doubt that it’s a privilege to care for the people we love, but that doesn’t take away from the fact that it’s a hard role. If you’re juggling looking after your parents with raising kids, you’ll need help. Share the load with your siblings, other family members, and close friends, and don’t be afraid to reach out if you need a hand or you can’t manage everything on your to-do list. If you don’t have a big family or support network, look for charities and organizations in your local area that support carers and provide caring services. It’s also essential to take breaks. We all need downtime to rest and recover. 

Many women find themselves in a situation where they’re caring for both their children and their parents. It’s natural to want to excel in both roles, but it’s a difficult challenge. If you’re in this position, key steps to navigate caring responsibilities include talking openly with your family and discussing the future, exploring all the options available to you as a family, and sharing the load with others.