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Narcissist Knows You Have Figured Them Out: 9 Critical Things to Expect
Discover the 9 critical behaviors to expect when the narcissist knows you have figured them out, and learn how to protect your emotional well-being.
Table of Contents
- Denial and Deflection
- Flying Monkeys
- Emotional Manipulation
- Anger and Hostility
- Smear Campaigns
- Triangulation
- Discard or Disappear
- Redemption and Return
- Gaslighting
- How to Protect Yourself
- Self-Care and Healing
- Conclusion
1. Denial and Deflection
When the narcissist knows you have figured them out, denial is their first line of defense. They will outright reject any accusations and try to shift blame onto others. This tactic creates confusion and makes you doubt your reality.
2. Flying Monkeys
“Flying monkeys” are individuals the narcissist manipulates to act on their behalf. Borrowed from The Wizard of Oz, these people might attack, discredit, or intimidate you while believing they are helping the narcissist.
Narcissists may exploit your emotions to regain control, often preying on your guilt, fear, or compassion. This emotional abuse can be subtle but devastating.
4. Anger and Hostility
Criticism threatens the narcissist’s carefully curated self-image, leading to anger or hostility. They may lash out verbally, emotionally, or even physically.
5. Smear Campaigns
To protect their image, narcissists often launch smear campaigns against those who expose them. They spread lies, rumors, and gossip to damage your reputation.
6. Triangulation
Triangulation involves bringing in a third party to create jealousy, undermine you, or control the narrative. Narcissists use triangulation to destabilize relationships and gain power.
7. Discard or Disappear
If the narcissist realizes they can no longer manipulate you, they may abruptly discard you as if you never mattered. This behavior is painful but reflects their inability to tolerate losing control.
8. Redemption and Return
It’s not uncommon for narcissists to try to re-enter your life. They might apologize and promise to change or use charm and flattery to regain your trust.
9. Gaslighting
Gaslighting is a manipulative tactic where the narcissist denies your reality, leaving you feeling confused and disoriented.
How to Protect Yourself
To deal with narcissistic abuse effectively:
- Set firm boundaries to protect yourself emotionally.
- Seek professional counseling or therapy for support.
- Educate yourself about narcissistic behaviors to recognize them quickly.
- Document instances of manipulation to validate your experience.
Self-Care and Healing
Focus on recovery strategies such as:
- Therapy and counseling.
- Mindfulness and meditation to reduce stress.
- Journaling to process emotions.
- Building a strong support network of trusted individuals.
Conclusion
Understanding the 9 critical behaviors of a narcissist when their mask falls can help you navigate the chaos and reclaim control over your life. Setting boundaries and seeking support are essential steps in protecting your mental well-being.
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